I'm Nick. I created Define My Day as a worksheet years ago. I was in my mid-thirties, had a wife and two kids, owned my own business, a nice little home, a country club memberships, a bunch of friends, and a fast car.
I was also miserable.
By all the vanity metrics, I should have been happy. The reality was that I was deep in debt, always chasing another sale, never had time for my wife and kids, and my health was declining. I was so stressed, I couldn't eat or sleep. I was working 12-14 hours a day and never making headway.
My "to-do" list was enormous. At that time, I was using an online app that synced my to-do's across my phone and computer. Every time I had something to do, I could simply type it in... complete with due dates. Other people could even add to this list. (Huge mistake!)
That list kept growing and growing. After awhile, I couldn't even look at it anymore.
One day, a coach told me to just write down one thing to do each day. The most important thing. And don't do anything else unless it's done.
I did. And it worked. I put my phone on "do not disturb", closed Outlook, shut my office door, and worked on the most important thing that day.
It worked so well, I did it again, and again. Day after day I wrote down one thing that I would do in the morning that took priority over everything else.
I began scheduling around this time - usually just an hour or two - and I really started making progress.
As I gained momentum, I refined my process, adding in mindful reflections and a daily theme to keep me focused on today's goals.
I also started noticing what would pull me away from this "priority time" and harm my results. I started writing them down:
"Customer phone calls"
"Radio in the background"
"Brandon walking into my office and talking about nonsense."
I developed strategies to avoid these things and my results skyrocketed.
I was less stressed and actually moving forward toward my goals. Even better, I had more time for my family.
And that to-do list? I logged in awhile back and took a look. I never did most of it and guess what... none of it mattered.